Losing and Finding Ourselves

 We are all on a journey. Are you enjoying yours? We have twenty-four hours in a day and if you are spending more than 20% of your life doing something that doesn’t float your boat, you could be doing yourself a major disservice. I use the 80/20 rule with everything because life isn’t perfect, but it should be enjoyable. I’ll do an internal check: “Am I happy at least 80% of the time in my relationships, work, and life balance?” This is a great starting point if you need help to determine if you need help! I’m going to guess that there is room for improvement for everyone!!

 Since I decided that “life was too short” I’ve gone from an insecure young woman that thought she “couldn’t” to a thriving entrepreneur living a life that gets me out of bed in the morning, excited for what’s next. I have the freedom to make my own choices for work & pleasure and I’m my own boss and I have total and complete control creatively. Has it been easy? Nope. But it’s been worth it. Every challenge that I’ve faced has turned into an experience that has taught me valuable lessons or led me on a path that is more aligned with my heart. Not only have I realized this for myself but I’ve seen it occur for countless other women.

 “Once your mindset changes, everything on the outside will change along with it.”
― Steve Maraboli

YOU are the creator of the life that you dream of but change is ultimately up to you. Books, courses and inspirational videos can help you get started, but taking action is the core of taking responsibility for the direction of your life and sometimes that can be a bit scary. OK. Who am I kidding? It’s freaking terrifying!! Yet incredibly empowering!

 Luckily, taking action isn’t nearly as hard as you might think—because every change, big or small, happens just one step at a time for everyone. Instead, the most important part of your success is something under your complete control. Your MINDSET!

 Mindset is defined as a set of beliefs or a way of thinking that determines one’s actions, reactions, and attitudes. In other words, mindset is the way we think and how those thoughts guide our decisions and actions. All of us have a mindset whether we realize it or not. And that mindset can be either helpful or harmful. A harmful mindset can keep us from reaching our full potential and achieving our goals. It can cause us to give up easily, miss out on opportunities, and make bad decisions. On the other hand, a helpful mindset can help us persevere through difficult times, take advantage of opportunities that come our way, and make good decisions.

 Mindset matters because it colors everything. It shapes how we see things, how we interpret events, how we react to challenges and how we interact with other people. mindset can be a powerful force for good, help us achieve our goals, overcome adversity and find happiness and satisfaction in life. A negative mindset can do just the opposite. It can cause us to give up on our dreams, dwell on our failures and miss out on the joys of life. mindset matters because it shapes everything about us – our thoughts, our emotions, our behavior and even our physical health.

 A change in mindset changes how we see the world, how we interact with others and how we feel about ourselves. It can be a life-changing experience. Let’s choose a mindset that will lead us to a better life. Luckily, there are some things we can do to change our mindset for the better.

 Three keys to changing your mindset:

 Adopt a Growth Mindset – become the person that believes that they can improve their skills, prospects and lives by learning new things.

  1. Identify limiting beliefs
  2. Find like-minded supportive individuals

 Blast through your limiting beliefs

 Many limiting beliefs are subconscious habits that we don’t even know are affecting us. Observing our automatic thoughts can be done in a number of ways:

  • Focus on your breathing and simply relax. Subconscious negative beliefs will often rise to the surface and attempt to disrupt the tranquility. Note them and write them down.
  • Free write about your dream goal—and what’s keeping you from success. This is a great way to identify your limiting beliefs. Seeing them on paper often shows how silly some of your negative self-talk is. Ask yourself “why” as you write down the beliefs to drill down deep.
  • Ask a trusted friend for their honest assessment to help identify roadblocks as well as your strengths.  Find someone who’s non-judgmental and whose opinion you trust.
  • When you have a limiting belief that starts with I can’t, I won’t, I don’t, I’m Start over and replace it with I can, I will, I am.

Why be Normal?

 This has got to be the #1 most freeing thing that I ever let go of. If you can find it within you to do things without worrying about the opinions of others – You will thrive. When I look back now at all of the comments or opinions that made me doubt myself or stay in a profession that wasn’t working for me because of other’s fears it is mind blowing. My life purpose became crystal clear when I decided I didn’t care about what other people might think. When I allowed myself the freedom to be different, I made the decision to block out the chatter of those that were stuck in their lives or couldn’t see past their pay cheques. I decided that was their problem, not mine & suddenly my decisions were no longer muddied by the unsolicited opinion of others or my own insecurities of “what will people think.” Choose to live life. Choose to be creative. Choose to be multi-faceted.

Choose happiness. “Normal” people will put their fears on you. You are not normal.

 You are wild and passionate. Wild women are freedom seekers and they care more about helping people and changing the world than they do about status. They choose happiness and you can too.

 Kim Mallory is a published author, Holistic Wellness Coach & Business Mentor.

If you’d like to reach out to Kim you can find her at Blissholistic.ca or you can email her here… kim@kimmallory.com

If you’d like to join her Facebook group, you’ll find her at Bliss Holistic with Kim Mallory https://www.facebook.com/groups/724946255393254

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